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Ways to Get to Know Your Neighbors Without Throwing a Party
You’ve visited various moving blogs looking for ways to introduce yourself to your neighbors, but you haven’t found quite the right approach yet. After all, you are a more private person, and that’s okay. But this means that the typical housewarming party might not work for you.
Luckily, you don’t have to fill your home with strangers or spend a lot of money when you get to know the locals. To introduce yourself in a quieter, more intimate fashion, use the tips we’ve provided below.
1. Just Go Say Hello
People think that they need a special excuse to introduce themselves to their new neighbors. However, remember that you just went through a dramatic upheaval. You uprooted your entire life and moved it somewhere else-that counts as a “special excuse.”
If you feel comfortable, you can simply walk up to your neighbor’s door, introduce yourself, and have a quick conversation. There’s no need to prepare a speech (although you can if you want), and you don’t have to bring anything with you.
But before you rush out the door, make sure you take the following into consideration:
- Don’t take it personally if your neighbors don’t want to talk to you. They may have had a bad day, or they may be in the middle of doing something stressful. Even if they normally behave rudely, you shouldn’t take it personally. You didn’t do anything wrong.
- Don’t visit at strange times. Visit in the middle of the day instead of late at night or early in the morning. You should also have some knowledge of your neighbors’ schedules so you don’t interrupt them while they run errands.
Make sure you give your neighbors time to talk as well. You’ve visited them to introduce yourself, but they’ll like you better if they get to talk about themselves too.
If this strategy seems too awkward or forward for you, don’t worry. The rest of the tips in this list give you a “special excuse” so you can visit your neighbors without leaving your comfort zone.
2. “Borrow” Something
Need a ladder? An extra cup of sugar? You just moved in, and nobody will mind if you ask for help. Even if you only pretend to need something, you can use the opportunity to get to know your neighbors. You can introduce yourself informally while you wait for your neighbors to find the requested items.
However, you shouldn’t use this strategy on all of your neighbors, and you should try to make the request legitimate. Ask only one or two of your neighbors if you can borrow simple items-if you keep asking everyone for help, they’ll think that you are up to something.
Not sure what you can ask for? Most neighbors won’t mind if you ask for any of the following:
- Hand tools
- Gardening tools
- Extension cords
- Ladders/step stools
- Cleaning supplies
- Food ingredients
Remember to return anything you’ve borrowed once you’ve finished using it.
3. Give Them Treats
Everyone loves food, and if you introduce yourself over a plate of cookies, they’ll also love you. Make some sort of baked goods and give some to every person on your street. Popular baked goods include:
- Simple chocolate chip cookies (leave the raisins, nuts, and oatmeal for later)
- Sugar cookies
- Banana bread/zucchini bread
- Carrot cake
- Pie (usually fruit pie)
- Homemade artisan bread
If you bring treats with you, it doesn’t matter if you run out of things to say. Your food will do the talking for you.
4. Spend Time in Your Front Yard
Your neighbors might come and introduce themselves if you garden or play with your family in the front yard. If they also come out to garden, they’ll see you, and they might come say hello.
5. Go for a Walk
If your neighbors won’t come to you, you can also go for a walk and say hi to them while they garden or check their mail. Don’t worry about meeting all your neighbors at once-if you take a walk every day, you’ll probably run into all of them eventually.
6. Join a Book Club/Exercise Group
You can combine your hobbies with socializing if you join a local book club or yoga group. You might not get to know your closest neighbors, but you will make friends with people in the area.
7. Join the Neighborhood Watch
Many neighborhoods have a volunteer watch group that keeps the area safe. If you join your neighborhood watch, you’ll get to know your community better while you build new relationships.
If gigantic party plans aren’t your style, skip that route and get to know your neighbors another way. Any of the tips we listed above will work, and you won’t have to spend money or entertain a large group of people.
You can introduce yourself to your neighbors at your own pace. Use these tips to get to know your neighbors your way today.